Consider the following relationship scenario: You've had some pretty good relationships in the past. Your new friend James has introduced you to a number of wonderful interests: obscure Tarantino films,

visits to museums, Thai food, and hang-gliding. Still, if there's one thing about James that drives you crazy, it's that he never stops talking, and will actually change his position on issues just to bait you into an argument. You argue more with James than with just about anyone else you know, and you frequently end up with your feelings hurt. In fact, you find yourself wondering whether James's roommate Rick wouldn't make a better friend. He's interesting, does fun things, and he doesn't seem to relish arguments nearly as much as James does. Now, analyze this scenario from a social exchange perspective. What are the rewards, costs, comparison level, and comparison level for alternatives? What's likely to happen in this case?

Answer: The rewards in your relationship with James are interesting activities. The costs are James's verbosity and his tendency to bait you, argue, and hurt your feelings. The comparison level is the difference between the rewards and costs of your relationship with James and what you expect based on your history of positive relationships. The comparison level for alternatives is what you would expect in terms of costs and rewards from Rick. Given that Rick is also interesting, but doesn't talk or argue as much, you will probably pursue a friendship with him instead of James.