Identify and explain the three internal dialectics. Give an example to illustrate both sides of each pole.

What will be an ideal response?

According to the dialectical perspective, partners continually fluctuate between each end of three tensions. These are known as internal dialectics. The autonomy–connection dialectic refers to the friction between wanting to feel connected to one’s partner versus wanting to maintain some independence. The openness–closedness dialectic includes the tension between wanting to open up and self-disclose while also wanting to maintain privacy. The predictability–novelty dialectic recognizes the pull between wanting stability or steadiness while also wanting opportunities for spontaneity. Examples will vary by student but should clearly show the tension between each side of each dialectic.